Bad Relationships Ruin Lives: Why Protecting Your Energy is the Ultimate Act of Self-Love
Bad Relationships Ruin Lives: Why Protecting Your Energy is the Ultimate Act of
Self-Love
If you’ve ever sat on WhatsApp with a friend who’s sobbing over someone who doesn’t
love them back or maybe you were the one sobbing you already know the truth: bad
relationships don’t just break hearts. They break people.
I’ve seen it too many times smart, vibrant, loving women slowly losing their spark
because they kept pouring into people who only took. The light dims. The laughter
fades. And before long, they’re living in emotional overdraft giving out more than they’ll
ever get back.
But here’s the thing: bad relationships aren’t just “part of life” or “lessons learned.”
They’re energy leaks.
They chip away at your confidence, your health, your peace, and your ability to trust
yourself again.
Mel Robbins says it best:
“You are not responsible for fixing people who refuse to take accountability for the
energy they bring into your life.”
Let that one land. Because too often, we confuse loyalty with self-sacrifice. We stay too
long. We give too much. We make excuses for people who would never do the same for
us.
The People Around You Shape Your Reality
We have our homes, careers, families, and goals, but the truth is simple: your quality of
life rises or falls with the people you allow in it.
If I could go back and give my younger self friendship advice, I’d say: stop being so
casual about who gets access to your energy. That applies not just to romantic
relationships, but also to friendships, coworkers, and even family.
As Mel Robbins reminds us:
“Pay attention to who you’re with when you feel your best. That’s your clue.”
And here’s the thing……most of us know when a relationship isn’t good for us. We
feel it in our gut long before it ends. But we push it aside because we’re scared of being
alone or afraid of confrontation.
What if instead, we reframed it as protecting our peace?
What if ending a relationship wasn’t failure, but an act of self-respect?
Choose People Who Pour Back In
When you surround yourself with genuine, kind, growth-minded people, everything
shifts. You laugh more. You sleep better. You feel seen.
That’s what Between Friends is about creating a space where women lift each other,
listen without judgment, and remind each other of their worth when life gets heavy.
Because friendships aren’t just “nice to have. They’re life support systems.
So today, do an energy audit. Who are the people that leave you feeling lighter? Call
them. Thank them. And for those who leave you drained it’s time to lovingly step back.
Protect your energy, it’s the most valuable resource.
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